Its really frustrating when i see so many new year events and parties in g4m happening around the nation for gays and not even one in chennai. It seems like the whole world is celebrating unlike the chennai gays sitting at home and watching Events of 2008 in television. This actually arises few questions like Are chennai guys hate parties ? Are they not socialites ? Are they still in the closet ? Are they still too much dependent on their parents and their restrictions ? Are the too much of ban in Chennai restricted them ? Are they really a frog in the well like the northindians says ? What is their real problem ? ...one thing i can say most of the chennai guys doesnt know how much excitement a new year party brings to you. its like watching a world cup cricket final live from the stadium
Well i have no answers for these questions, since iam not a born chennaite. But it irritates me when i see even smaller cities than chennai like trichy, coimbatore, pune, nagpur or jaipur celebrating gay parties when chennai has none. Well i tried to organize one but given up finally because of the lack of volunteers i have posted several in the g4m forum and got zero response. People here just treats everything as risk and they just want to have fun on someone's cost.
Last week Adarsh from g4m invited me to Platinum (for those innocent chennai guys Platinum is a disco cum bar at Aruna inn). He told me that Platinum can be a very good gay spot on sundays since it is less crowded and stags (single) are allowed. Though the turn out seems to be less in number last week but it was fun (especially the hot DJs). And people like Teja and Senthil(he is a stylish dancer) are around fun is always guaranteed. i hope more gays will turn in the coming days.
Adarsh also asked me to come to Elliots beach (besant nagar) to meet some of his friends. There were a mixed group of guys (sorry men) i met there. Couple of men seems to be more elder than me but still they were very interesting and the chat i had with them was quite exciting to me.
I must mention about some of my recent visits at Marina (My friend Rahul dragged me in). The Place was filled with LGBT community people but i cannot call it as gay spot since i find plenty of transgenders and cross-dressers there. The Place also looks like a spot where plenty of criminal activities (like drug dealings, prostitutions, thefts etc) takes place. Infact one callboy approached me in my earlier visit and asked me how much i can pay him for one nite. I think guys like us who are educated and decent should quit going to this spot and try to organise or locate a new gay spot in chennai, and leave the Marina Swimming Pool spot to the poor transgender community.
World is changing, Chennai and our mindset are bound to change and its enough waiting for someone to take the initiatives...In 60's and 70's drag queens and several gay men took several initiatives and fought hard to achieve what they have got in United States and Canada. We may not have to take those activities now which are automatically happening in India, but atleast we should find a decent gay spot in chennai. Some of my friends who are ready to take initiatives which will unite our community but they need support, not your demotivating opinions or cautioning ideas ( i know there were some bad incidents in the past). But now the government is more open to gay issues and the media support is tremendous...all we need to do is willingness and volunteers.
i guess in our new year resolution quitting Marina beach visits and finding a quality place for a gay meet is essential. We have hidden ourself enough in the closet for so long, i guess the time has come now that we decide to do things which makes us happy. There is nothing wrong in meeting like minded people and sharing our feelings and thoughts. So lets stop running behind our straight friends, they can never understand you truly. Lets find a quality Gay zone in Chennai
Note: "Spending money for your entertainment may look like expensive and waste to you guys, but spending money for your lifestyle which decides your life is priceless"