Sometimes you will go to a jockey showroom,buy an underwear which is not your size actually, but you will buy it because you just like it.
Sometimes you will fall in love with someone hoping that one day he will realize your true love and accept you as what you are.
Every time you walk on the street, travel in a train (or) bus, window-shopping at spencers (or) just having a chat with a friend in the beach (or) you stuck in traffic jam in Mount road while riding your bike, you will see that most beautiful person who will steal your heart within milli seconds. Obviously he never noticed you, never even know that you exist. But his face never left your heart, you fantasize him all night and every night.
Things like this cannot be expressed because you don't know if he is gay (or) bisexual. You don't know if he is straight (or) bend. You just don't know.
I dont't know how Newton proved his theory but I have my own way of proving my theories.Let's just call it "Vikki's gravity".
SCENARIO :1
Every night i see him, roaming around like he is doing a sky walk, moving his butt hypnotising all the gay ones in my office. Alright I know what you gonna ask me now, "What am i doing in the office at night?". A million dollar question and i evenly reply to you dumb ones for million dollar services, "I'm jerking off every night ofcourse"'.Arguably he is one of the cutest(in this case prettiest) boy in our work place and his eyes glaring down at our crotch everytime we pass by him. He often comes to my cabin, staring at me non stop. I wonder what's at stake.But he refuses to talk, not even a 'hi' from him. I am sure either Yahoo chat or planet romeo would have taught him by now how to make an introduction or a start.RULE 1: "You can start with an ASL" or "Top/ Bottom" or just plainly ask "Do you have place tonight?". But from him nothing came . I waited for him anxiously, for sure he is one damn hot one not to miss.I am sure if he would have been in a gay party in chennai, by now he would have been bulge grabbed.
After few painstaking weeks, he slowly got his courage and came to my cabin. He was standing by the door cock-eyed. It was vivid that he was then thinking of a big time sombu, but I,ve decided to play virgin-bottom or a pure top who never slept with a boy before but have been dreaming ever since the blossoming of my puberty. I kept an innocent look, pretending to be a damn straight guy, stared back at him as if there is not even single gay-mo-some in my body.
As if he suddenly got a full bladder to pee he shook his head and left the place. I saw his swinging butt revolving like a globe. Few days later one of my colleague told me that the "skywalk butt guy" got married to a girl recently with whom he was in love with.
SCENARIO 2:
Few years back, I was once again working in night shift then. For some strange reason they gave us a stupid training session for a period of ten days. Most of us in our team were young,energetic and fortunately for me almost all the guys in my team were cute and hot.Every day i go home and dream about each of them. Each one will take their turn for a day. Sometimes i forgot to line them up, I will put them on a gang bang or we will do a buckake keeping a cute twink in the middle, awesome.
One among them was a guy called Ramana from Coimbatore. Well somebody must do a research survey on the Kovai guys, almost all of them I came across were hot ones.Unfortunately for me, he was damn straight almost 90degrees. I was afraid there was not even a single bend in his body. Then he recently broke up with his girlfriend and started drinking BIGTIME.
He used to talk about his ex-girlfriend who ran away with a guy who owned a Mercedes Benz. After work every day he took me to a bar and drank non-stop. The worst part of the story is that after couple of large he'll start whining about his ex, it was like a mega serial for me, tears were all over the floor all THE time,it was like i began to sink in the titanic ocean.
One day after work he took me to the same bar. It was an eve of my birthday which gave him another reason to celebrate (or cry again).He drank for several hours and i missed my last train. So i had to go to his place for a sleep over.
His room was like any other bachelor's paradise unclean and clothes were all over the place.His underwears were lying in the middle of the bed like a couch. He took off his jean, shirt and all of a sudden he removed his underwear too.He was standing there in front of me totally naked. His cute face, hot body and white flesh was right infront of me tempting every thing out of me. And then he said those golden words " What are you waiting for Vikki? Come and fuck me hard..lets celebrate your birthday.Is it not this what you were longing for these days?". I don't know if he said exactly like this but something similar like this which made me fly open in a hurry and hop in. Of course it was one of my most cherishable birthday gift ever.
By scenario 1: A gay looking one can be damn straight one
By scenario 2: A straight acting guy can be a brand nelly bottom.
You just don't know who is gay or straight in this world of drama.
END OF STORY....
Written by: Vikki
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Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Saturday, March 26, 2011
My Time Machine
I feel like been years i have written something here...Its been hectic and busy life for me for a year now...And i am sure our followers will be really upset about it. So here is the recap what happened in my life and also in our Chennai Gay community for the past 6 months, so that readers dont feel like disconnected from me.
My Life
1. Things are great with me and my boyfriend, we have celebrated our one year anniversary, we both were proud of sticking to each other and succesfully living togather which is kind of rare in Chennai. I and him quietly celebrated the day and spent some time where we met first (ofcourse Besant nagar beach it is)
2. After the split and break in the Chennai Dost team last year. We fought hard to give life back to CD and successfully done it. Few friends who have been the backbone of CD in the past reconnected with Chennai Dost again which actually helped us to continue with our parties, movie screenings and meetings.
3. My boyfriend joined in his new course Fashion designing(his ambition to become one) and i have joined a new company with a better profile (Earlier i was a Market Analyst and now a Project Manager) and more responsiblity which actually made my life busy and exciting.
4. We have successfully launched Chennai Dost Magazine with beautiful contents and presentation, though the distribution is still not made, hopefully we will do it in April.
5. We have launched campaigns 'Stop Gay Extortion' and 'Support Pride 2011'. In another few months when the Pride organising happens, my life and schedule will go totally crazy.
6. My long time plan to finish writing my novel 'Perpetual Love' is pending. So far i have written only 5 episodes. I hope i will be able to do it before Pride.
7. We are planning to produce few Gay short movies in tamil to release before the Pride.
8. Members who have joined so far with Chennai Dost has reached 1000...
9. And i am afraid i am getting old and i am not sure if i can call myself as young man anymore...
I Promise all of you that i will post few more interesting articles of mine shortly, thanks for being patience and thanks for your great support.
Cheers
Vikranth
My Life
1. Things are great with me and my boyfriend, we have celebrated our one year anniversary, we both were proud of sticking to each other and succesfully living togather which is kind of rare in Chennai. I and him quietly celebrated the day and spent some time where we met first (ofcourse Besant nagar beach it is)
2. After the split and break in the Chennai Dost team last year. We fought hard to give life back to CD and successfully done it. Few friends who have been the backbone of CD in the past reconnected with Chennai Dost again which actually helped us to continue with our parties, movie screenings and meetings.
3. My boyfriend joined in his new course Fashion designing(his ambition to become one) and i have joined a new company with a better profile (Earlier i was a Market Analyst and now a Project Manager) and more responsiblity which actually made my life busy and exciting.
4. We have successfully launched Chennai Dost Magazine with beautiful contents and presentation, though the distribution is still not made, hopefully we will do it in April.
5. We have launched campaigns 'Stop Gay Extortion' and 'Support Pride 2011'. In another few months when the Pride organising happens, my life and schedule will go totally crazy.
6. My long time plan to finish writing my novel 'Perpetual Love' is pending. So far i have written only 5 episodes. I hope i will be able to do it before Pride.
7. We are planning to produce few Gay short movies in tamil to release before the Pride.
8. Members who have joined so far with Chennai Dost has reached 1000...
9. And i am afraid i am getting old and i am not sure if i can call myself as young man anymore...
I Promise all of you that i will post few more interesting articles of mine shortly, thanks for being patience and thanks for your great support.
Cheers
Vikranth
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Protest against TV9 network for their homophobic act
Dear friends,
'We are queer, lets not fear. We hope for a change, hope for a better world to live'
In order to raise our voice against the breach of privacy by TV-9 network,
Chennai Dost is organising an email campaign and we request our fellow gay men and supporters to write an email to TV-9 network condemning the act against our community.Let us express our anger in a politically right way...
If you are not comfortable in using your personal id, please create a new one and send a mail to info@tv9.net
Cheers
Vikranth Prasanna
Founder & Director - Chennai Dost Group
'We are queer, lets not fear. We hope for a change, hope for a better world to live'
In order to raise our voice against the breach of privacy by TV-9 network,
Chennai Dost is organising an email campaign and we request our fellow gay men and supporters to write an email to TV-9 network condemning the act against our community.Let us express our anger in a politically right way...
If you are not comfortable in using your personal id, please create a new one and send a mail to info@tv9.net
Cheers
Vikranth Prasanna
Founder & Director - Chennai Dost Group
Friday, January 28, 2011
Chennai Dost presents Gay Valentine's day Party
For details contact: 9551630213, 9840630365, 044 43313382
Friday, January 7, 2011
Saturday, January 1, 2011
"HAPPY NEW YEAR 2011"
New years come and new years go,
Pieces of time all in a row.
As we live our life, each second and minute,
We know we’re privileged to have you in it.
Our appreciation never ends
For our greatest blessings:To our Chennai Dost family and friends.
Happy New Year!2011......
Friday, December 31, 2010
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Wednesday, November 17, 2010
An Open Letter to Sakunthala Madam, the latest addition to homophobic list
Dear Sakunthala Madam
Mahabharata says
She was surrounded in the solitude of the wilderness, by śakuntas (birds),
therefore, hath she been named by me Sakuntala (bird-protected)
We believe by the meaning of your name because of the protection from the birds by birth you will have peace and harmony in your mind unlike your response to a letter in Dinamalar a week before.
As you proudly proclaimed "I completely detest homosexuals. We are all created to lead a life in tune with Nature". I wonder how you were serving the Indian Government as a judge in the past, when our judiciary believes in equality and inclusiveness.
Then, we come to the classic "Homosexuality isn't natural, and is, therefore, wrong" argument by you. It's true that we don't see homosexuality in nature, but since when does something's "naturalness," for lack of a better term, determine its morality?
Society is not a natural one, society and its norms were formed by human, therefore it is not a natural course. Civilization and its activities are totally controlled by the human, henceforth it is against the nature. Destroying forests and building houses are against nature. If homosexuality is unnatural, we may not be able to find it among other creatures such as dolphins etc.
But if we only looked at Nature without any cultural filters of any kind, we'd actually find that the homosexuality is absolutely "Natural" in, say, octopuses, dogs, human beings:"Natural" as in "Existent in Nature".So, is homosexuality against Nature? No, it's only against a certain ill-conceived interpretation of Nature. Nature therefore actually goes against an interpretation of itself!...
I'd like to rectify this absolutely ridiculous paradox of yours and put forward a statement on Nature that is at least coherent with Nature itself, and I'll therefore state that it is against Nature for so many people and, most importantly, for the media and people like you to devote time and negative energy in order to discriminate sexual tastes when humanity is plagued by war, poverty, violence, illiteracy, starvation.
And then our beloved Madam you said “We all eat with our mouth, for a change can we try eating with something else? Is that even possible? No.” What will you do if your son or daughter is naturally left-handed, will you cut off their hand and asked them to practice using right-hands? Or you will encourage them to be on their own way and lead their life successfully and peacefully?
And you said “May be they can adopt, but let me tell you, kids raised by same-sex couples will end up as criminals or mentally retarded. “ May be you have a concrete proof or statistics to prove this obnoxious theory. If only adopted kids same-sex couples will become criminals and mentally retarded why do we have so many queuing up in KMC's? Why is that the criminal rate in India is higher than some of the western countries which agreed on same-sex marriages and adoption?
And your for information Madam, recently Delhi High Court shot down the proposition that homosexuality is a mental disorder saying that homosexuality is just another form of sexual expression. World Health Organisation excluded homosexuality from the mental disorder diseases. Both American Psychiatric Association and the American Psychological Association declassified homosexuality as a mental disorder. So i am wondering on what basis you termed us as criminals and mentally disordered people?
And you continued as “ I will offer you advice for a good life. Will you listen to me, Son?” Good life? Under what terms Madam, you wanted to chop of the feathers of the bird to live its life without flying, I pray to God that you do the same advice to your son too.
“I know many homosexuals who have changed from their evil ways, got married, returned to morality and live peacefully and happily. Don't let your mind wander into evil ways, come back, come home to god. “ You were dragging God and Evil unnecessarily to prove your theory, but could you please give me a data of married men who were homosexuals and still living happily? Dear Madam, by your irresponsible and ignorant philosophy you were spoiling directly and indirectly of many lives of men and the women they are going to be married.
And you finally mentioned “Homosexuality will gift you AIDS. Do you want to live as HIV-AIDS infected person for the rest of your life?. This showcase your lack of knowledge about AIDS, as if AIDS will not affect hetrosexual person. Once again you have gone wrong in statistics, next time when you talk about AIDS etc better collect some data from WHO or some NGOs which are working on this area.
People like you who spread venom against us will not stop us being as what we are naturally, we will fight against evil systems like you who have its own theory and wanted everybody to follow it. Because we dont live a lie, lie that can be as cruel and injustice as yours.
As my 'Coming out' poem said
Once I was there in that darkness filled with emptiness
Clouded with fears and scares threatening to kill nevertheless
I was there standing alone craving to let myself free
Fighting against odd spirits that very notion within me
It was tears all over; spreading its wings traveled all my life
‘Come out’ Liberation encouraged me with an enchanting smile
All my lies and fakes mounting like a lava periling an erupt
Control was not within me, it was the Orb warning to react
Time was running
My heart was dying
Glowing grey hairs portraying the lack of love in my days
Carved with loneliness barricading the truth in its ways
Nature seems to be their only artillery blocking my happiness
Choices are not chosen as virtues under our family values
I was enchained with their beliefs, covered with moral ethics
Killing the true me was considered mercy in their social clinics
Closeting in someone’s shoes hurting my horrified heart
Their Laughter was daunting me to accept that painful act
By resisting to lie
I refused to die
Person like you in public who have the moral responsibility and served in the judiciary which repealed against Section 377 recently in Delhi High Court and you should not force your personal opinion on a public forum like Dinamalar.
Cheers
Vikranth Prasanna
Founder & Director - Chennai Dost
Mahabharata says
She was surrounded in the solitude of the wilderness, by śakuntas (birds),
therefore, hath she been named by me Sakuntala (bird-protected)
We believe by the meaning of your name because of the protection from the birds by birth you will have peace and harmony in your mind unlike your response to a letter in Dinamalar a week before.
As you proudly proclaimed "I completely detest homosexuals. We are all created to lead a life in tune with Nature". I wonder how you were serving the Indian Government as a judge in the past, when our judiciary believes in equality and inclusiveness.
Then, we come to the classic "Homosexuality isn't natural, and is, therefore, wrong" argument by you. It's true that we don't see homosexuality in nature, but since when does something's "naturalness," for lack of a better term, determine its morality?
Society is not a natural one, society and its norms were formed by human, therefore it is not a natural course. Civilization and its activities are totally controlled by the human, henceforth it is against the nature. Destroying forests and building houses are against nature. If homosexuality is unnatural, we may not be able to find it among other creatures such as dolphins etc.
But if we only looked at Nature without any cultural filters of any kind, we'd actually find that the homosexuality is absolutely "Natural" in, say, octopuses, dogs, human beings:"Natural" as in "Existent in Nature".So, is homosexuality against Nature? No, it's only against a certain ill-conceived interpretation of Nature. Nature therefore actually goes against an interpretation of itself!...
I'd like to rectify this absolutely ridiculous paradox of yours and put forward a statement on Nature that is at least coherent with Nature itself, and I'll therefore state that it is against Nature for so many people and, most importantly, for the media and people like you to devote time and negative energy in order to discriminate sexual tastes when humanity is plagued by war, poverty, violence, illiteracy, starvation.
And then our beloved Madam you said “We all eat with our mouth, for a change can we try eating with something else? Is that even possible? No.” What will you do if your son or daughter is naturally left-handed, will you cut off their hand and asked them to practice using right-hands? Or you will encourage them to be on their own way and lead their life successfully and peacefully?
And you said “May be they can adopt, but let me tell you, kids raised by same-sex couples will end up as criminals or mentally retarded. “ May be you have a concrete proof or statistics to prove this obnoxious theory. If only adopted kids same-sex couples will become criminals and mentally retarded why do we have so many queuing up in KMC's? Why is that the criminal rate in India is higher than some of the western countries which agreed on same-sex marriages and adoption?
And your for information Madam, recently Delhi High Court shot down the proposition that homosexuality is a mental disorder saying that homosexuality is just another form of sexual expression. World Health Organisation excluded homosexuality from the mental disorder diseases. Both American Psychiatric Association and the American Psychological Association declassified homosexuality as a mental disorder. So i am wondering on what basis you termed us as criminals and mentally disordered people?
And you continued as “ I will offer you advice for a good life. Will you listen to me, Son?” Good life? Under what terms Madam, you wanted to chop of the feathers of the bird to live its life without flying, I pray to God that you do the same advice to your son too.
“I know many homosexuals who have changed from their evil ways, got married, returned to morality and live peacefully and happily. Don't let your mind wander into evil ways, come back, come home to god. “ You were dragging God and Evil unnecessarily to prove your theory, but could you please give me a data of married men who were homosexuals and still living happily? Dear Madam, by your irresponsible and ignorant philosophy you were spoiling directly and indirectly of many lives of men and the women they are going to be married.
And you finally mentioned “Homosexuality will gift you AIDS. Do you want to live as HIV-AIDS infected person for the rest of your life?. This showcase your lack of knowledge about AIDS, as if AIDS will not affect hetrosexual person. Once again you have gone wrong in statistics, next time when you talk about AIDS etc better collect some data from WHO or some NGOs which are working on this area.
People like you who spread venom against us will not stop us being as what we are naturally, we will fight against evil systems like you who have its own theory and wanted everybody to follow it. Because we dont live a lie, lie that can be as cruel and injustice as yours.
As my 'Coming out' poem said
Once I was there in that darkness filled with emptiness
Clouded with fears and scares threatening to kill nevertheless
I was there standing alone craving to let myself free
Fighting against odd spirits that very notion within me
It was tears all over; spreading its wings traveled all my life
‘Come out’ Liberation encouraged me with an enchanting smile
All my lies and fakes mounting like a lava periling an erupt
Control was not within me, it was the Orb warning to react
Time was running
My heart was dying
Glowing grey hairs portraying the lack of love in my days
Carved with loneliness barricading the truth in its ways
Nature seems to be their only artillery blocking my happiness
Choices are not chosen as virtues under our family values
I was enchained with their beliefs, covered with moral ethics
Killing the true me was considered mercy in their social clinics
Closeting in someone’s shoes hurting my horrified heart
Their Laughter was daunting me to accept that painful act
By resisting to lie
I refused to die
Person like you in public who have the moral responsibility and served in the judiciary which repealed against Section 377 recently in Delhi High Court and you should not force your personal opinion on a public forum like Dinamalar.
Cheers
Vikranth Prasanna
Founder & Director - Chennai Dost
Take Action : Condemn Tamil magazine Dinamalar's Homophobia
Dear Friends
At SIAAP, We came across a very disturbing article published in Dinamalar,Vaaramalar last Sunday, 14th November 2010 in the column Anbudan Antharangam - Sakunthala Gopinath. This column is a platform to get advice or suggestions for personal and intimate issues and problems. Last Sunday in this column a 28 year old closeted gay man shared his concern about straight marriage because his family is planning to get him married. The person seemed to be sure about his sexual preference. The reply of the columnist Sakunthala Gopinath was unethical, homophobic, amoral, malapropos and discriminating. Sakunthala in the most disgusted way has mentioned that his writing depicts that he is an effeminate man who prefers to be lonely. Further more she has pointed out 8 reasons why he is gay.
Please find the below link to the article.
http://www.dinamalar.com/Supplementary_detail.asp?id=2629&ncat=2
Here is the English translation of the full exchange :
Question
Dear Mam,
I have finished college and now working in a private company. I am a homosexual male. From very young age, I am not attracted to women, I am only attracted to men. In those days, when I was with my friends, I was never interested in watching porn with them.
They all watched straight pornography, which didn't interest me. They don't show men enough on those movies, they show women.
I later went on the Internet and came to know about being Gay. I used to go to the Internet Cafe every week and watch gay porn and chat with other gay men. I have also met and had sexual encounters with 20 men so far. My friends and family doesn't know that I am gay. I am so afraid of letting them know, if they come to know about me, I would kill myself. My parents are currently seeking alliances for my marriage. I don't want to get married, I will feel awfully guilty. In western countries, same-sex couples get married, have kids and live together. Our culture and our people doesnt accept all that. I am not sure what to do. Please consider me as your friend and help me out.
Friendly yours,
XXX
Response:
I read your letter. I guess you are close to 28 years old. You work for a private company. You are a loner. Your handwriting is quite feminine. I think one of the following is the reason why you are a homosexual
1. Homosexuality is a genetic disorder
2. Your mother is dead and you were raised by a strict father (or) your father is dead and you were raised by a selfish mother (or) you are younger to 3-4 sisters . You have been exposed at a very young age to lot of women nudity, mostly ugly ones. You got repelled by that without proper understanding.
3. You have bad friends who engage in homosexuality and talk about it
4. You are irrationally angry towards the world and the society. You just want to contradict, and be rebellious, for the sake of it
5. You are a half-baked atheist, who doesn't believe in god. No religion in the world approves homosexuality
6. You have a wrong scientific mentality that leads you to think that you know everything
7. You were raised by an evil step mother who ill treated you
8. You are a trouble maker , anti-social
I completely detest homosexuals. We are all created to lead a life in tune with Nature. Man - Woman relationship is like a relay race, it leads humanity to the future generations. It is not just for sex, but it is very important for the unit called family. We all eat with our mouth, for a change can we try eating with something else? Is that even possible? No.
Male and female babies are born in the ration of 1:1. Monogamous heterosexual relationship is God's unwritten law for humans.
A woman is like a flower and a man is like the bee. A bee can feed on the flower, a flower cant feed on the bee . Also a bee cant feed on another bee. It is the Man- Woman relationship that inspires life, art, literature and poetry. In your letter you have mentioned that men marry men, have babies and live together. A man can't make babies with another man, that is not scientifically possible. May be they can adopt, but let me tell you, kids raised by same-sex couples will end up as criminals or mentally retarded.
I will offer you advice for a good life. Will you listen to me, Son?
You mention that you are not sexually attracted to women. That is not the real truth, you are confused. You are blinded. Clear the fog and try to see things more clearly. You will see the reality. Don't spend your time on the internet, pray to god and become spiritual.
If you parents look for a match for you, don't say No. Let them. Try to find a manly-looking girl like actress Tabu.
I know many homosexuals who have changed from their evil ways, got married, returned to morality and live peacefully and happily.
Don't let your mind wander into evil ways, come back, come home to god. Homosexuality will gift you AIDS. Do you want to live as HIV-AIDS infected person for the rest of your life?
Read works that celebrate women and femininity. If you have only met bad and evil women so far in your life, don't conclude that you don't like women. Try to mix with the good ones.
Get married, have kids and live happily.
- Always motherly,
Sakunthala Gopinath
We as a collective crowd of LGBTQ and LGBTQ supporters from NGOs,CBOs and other groups should request Dinamalar to publish a corrigendum and an apology letter.
If you would like to mail, email or fax Dinamalar please find the below contact information
Dinamalar
219, Anna Salai,
Chennai – 600002
Fax : 044 28523695
e-mail – dmrcni@dinamalar.in
P.S: Thanks to SIAAP, Orinam.net and others to bring this to our notice. Special thanks to Gabriel and Shridhar for the english translation
At SIAAP, We came across a very disturbing article published in Dinamalar,Vaaramalar last Sunday, 14th November 2010 in the column Anbudan Antharangam - Sakunthala Gopinath. This column is a platform to get advice or suggestions for personal and intimate issues and problems. Last Sunday in this column a 28 year old closeted gay man shared his concern about straight marriage because his family is planning to get him married. The person seemed to be sure about his sexual preference. The reply of the columnist Sakunthala Gopinath was unethical, homophobic, amoral, malapropos and discriminating. Sakunthala in the most disgusted way has mentioned that his writing depicts that he is an effeminate man who prefers to be lonely. Further more she has pointed out 8 reasons why he is gay.
Please find the below link to the article.
http://www.dinamalar.com/Supplementary_detail.asp?id=2629&ncat=2
Here is the English translation of the full exchange :
Question
Dear Mam,
I have finished college and now working in a private company. I am a homosexual male. From very young age, I am not attracted to women, I am only attracted to men. In those days, when I was with my friends, I was never interested in watching porn with them.
They all watched straight pornography, which didn't interest me. They don't show men enough on those movies, they show women.
I later went on the Internet and came to know about being Gay. I used to go to the Internet Cafe every week and watch gay porn and chat with other gay men. I have also met and had sexual encounters with 20 men so far. My friends and family doesn't know that I am gay. I am so afraid of letting them know, if they come to know about me, I would kill myself. My parents are currently seeking alliances for my marriage. I don't want to get married, I will feel awfully guilty. In western countries, same-sex couples get married, have kids and live together. Our culture and our people doesnt accept all that. I am not sure what to do. Please consider me as your friend and help me out.
Friendly yours,
XXX
Response:
I read your letter. I guess you are close to 28 years old. You work for a private company. You are a loner. Your handwriting is quite feminine. I think one of the following is the reason why you are a homosexual
1. Homosexuality is a genetic disorder
2. Your mother is dead and you were raised by a strict father (or) your father is dead and you were raised by a selfish mother (or) you are younger to 3-4 sisters . You have been exposed at a very young age to lot of women nudity, mostly ugly ones. You got repelled by that without proper understanding.
3. You have bad friends who engage in homosexuality and talk about it
4. You are irrationally angry towards the world and the society. You just want to contradict, and be rebellious, for the sake of it
5. You are a half-baked atheist, who doesn't believe in god. No religion in the world approves homosexuality
6. You have a wrong scientific mentality that leads you to think that you know everything
7. You were raised by an evil step mother who ill treated you
8. You are a trouble maker , anti-social
I completely detest homosexuals. We are all created to lead a life in tune with Nature. Man - Woman relationship is like a relay race, it leads humanity to the future generations. It is not just for sex, but it is very important for the unit called family. We all eat with our mouth, for a change can we try eating with something else? Is that even possible? No.
Male and female babies are born in the ration of 1:1. Monogamous heterosexual relationship is God's unwritten law for humans.
A woman is like a flower and a man is like the bee. A bee can feed on the flower, a flower cant feed on the bee . Also a bee cant feed on another bee. It is the Man- Woman relationship that inspires life, art, literature and poetry. In your letter you have mentioned that men marry men, have babies and live together. A man can't make babies with another man, that is not scientifically possible. May be they can adopt, but let me tell you, kids raised by same-sex couples will end up as criminals or mentally retarded.
I will offer you advice for a good life. Will you listen to me, Son?
You mention that you are not sexually attracted to women. That is not the real truth, you are confused. You are blinded. Clear the fog and try to see things more clearly. You will see the reality. Don't spend your time on the internet, pray to god and become spiritual.
If you parents look for a match for you, don't say No. Let them. Try to find a manly-looking girl like actress Tabu.
I know many homosexuals who have changed from their evil ways, got married, returned to morality and live peacefully and happily.
Don't let your mind wander into evil ways, come back, come home to god. Homosexuality will gift you AIDS. Do you want to live as HIV-AIDS infected person for the rest of your life?
Read works that celebrate women and femininity. If you have only met bad and evil women so far in your life, don't conclude that you don't like women. Try to mix with the good ones.
Get married, have kids and live happily.
- Always motherly,
Sakunthala Gopinath
We as a collective crowd of LGBTQ and LGBTQ supporters from NGOs,CBOs and other groups should request Dinamalar to publish a corrigendum and an apology letter.
If you would like to mail, email or fax Dinamalar please find the below contact information
Dinamalar
219, Anna Salai,
Chennai – 600002
Fax : 044 28523695
e-mail – dmrcni@dinamalar.in
P.S: Thanks to SIAAP, Orinam.net and others to bring this to our notice. Special thanks to Gabriel and Shridhar for the english translation
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Amazin Post: My son is gay
Please take a look at the below link...One of the most popular post in recent times and making a controversy in US
http://nerdyapplebottom.com/2010/11/02/my-son-is-gay/
Hope all the indian moms are just like her
http://nerdyapplebottom.com/2010/11/02/my-son-is-gay/
Hope all the indian moms are just like her
Monday, November 1, 2010
Chennai Dost need funds for Magazine
Dear Readers
As we are planning to launch the Gay Lifestyle Magazine in Chennai, there has been some lacking of funds which is causing some unwanted delays in launching it. If any of our readers would like to make any monetory contribution for Chennai Dost Magazine please contact our PR at 044 433 133 82 for Payment details.
We are looking forward for your contribution to Chennai Dost
Cheers
Chennai Dost
As we are planning to launch the Gay Lifestyle Magazine in Chennai, there has been some lacking of funds which is causing some unwanted delays in launching it. If any of our readers would like to make any monetory contribution for Chennai Dost Magazine please contact our PR at 044 433 133 82 for Payment details.
We are looking forward for your contribution to Chennai Dost
Cheers
Chennai Dost
Chennai Dost Gay Magazine - Contribute your contents
Dear Friends
As Harvey Milk said
"We started of doing small things and then it became a Queer movement. The only thing they have to look forward to is hope. And you have to give them hope. Hope for a better world, hope for a better tomorrow, hope for a better place to come to if the pressures at home are too great. Hope that all will be all right"
Chennai Dost is planning to launch Chennai's First Ever Gay Lifestyle Magazine this November. We would like to invite everybody to send their articles, poems, short stories, photographs or paintings (based on Gay or Bisexual theme) to us if you like your writing to be published in our first edition.
Please send it to chennaidost.magazine@gmail.com or magazine@friendsofchennai.com on or before 6th November.
Cheers
Editorial Team
Chennai Dost
As Harvey Milk said
"We started of doing small things and then it became a Queer movement. The only thing they have to look forward to is hope. And you have to give them hope. Hope for a better world, hope for a better tomorrow, hope for a better place to come to if the pressures at home are too great. Hope that all will be all right"
Chennai Dost is planning to launch Chennai's First Ever Gay Lifestyle Magazine this November. We would like to invite everybody to send their articles, poems, short stories, photographs or paintings (based on Gay or Bisexual theme) to us if you like your writing to be published in our first edition.
Please send it to chennaidost.magazine@gmail.com or magazine@friendsofchennai.com on or before 6th November.
Cheers
Editorial Team
Chennai Dost
Saturday, October 30, 2010
First ever Gay Lifestyle Magazine in Chennai
Good news for all the Chennai Dost blog readers
Chennai Dost will be launching its First ever Gay lifestyle Magazine for Chennai on November
If you like your writings, poems, paintings or photos to be published in the magazine, please send it to our editorial team on or before Nov 5th at chennaidost.magazine@gmail.com or contact 044 433 133 82
The magazine sections are
1. Entertainment
2. Fashion
3. Health
4. Art and Literature
5. General
Be a part of the history, be proud to be gay
Cheers
Chennai Dost Team
Chennai Dost will be launching its First ever Gay lifestyle Magazine for Chennai on November
If you like your writings, poems, paintings or photos to be published in the magazine, please send it to our editorial team on or before Nov 5th at chennaidost.magazine@gmail.com or contact 044 433 133 82
The magazine sections are
1. Entertainment
2. Fashion
3. Health
4. Art and Literature
5. General
Be a part of the history, be proud to be gay
Cheers
Chennai Dost Team
Thursday, October 21, 2010
What's wrong with Gym built men?
Written by
Vikki
For the past 40 minutes and 36 seonds he was lifting that heavy iron metal with enormous concentration. I could see the bulge in his arms getting bigger and bigger, waiting to burst from his shorts. All right, i was ogling him literally, period. I was afraid that the veins inside the bulge might break and appear anytime, i felt like i was born to take a first look at it. I was visualising him naked, his long, thick muscles...blah blah blah. I started analysing various reasons for his hard effort to build his body in shape.
After repeated persuasion from Rahul my boyfriend, i have decided to join Gym. Definitely i have no ambitious idea of turning myself into a John Abraham or Brad Pitt or participating in Mr.India Contest. I just wanted to convince Rahul by going to a gym everyday. But i had other reason to go to the gym for sure. I was not sure if my body building project would work, but it helped me flexing my other important muscles.
Sometimes i wondered on a hot summer day where are all these gays in town? Well, you must visit my gym in adyar. They are all here in different types, sizes and ages. Hotties, hot twinks, hot muscled men busy working and sweating out. Ofcourse with few gay men like me around watching them.
Most of the gay men likes muscular built men, i wonder if there any particular reason for gay men to go 'ga-ga' on gym built men. Even though we read several news about the growing level of impotency among gym built men. Well, as usual i have decided to do a research on these guys.
Point to ponder:
1. Most of the gym built men have their FB, PlanetRomeo or Orkut profiles having their photos posing their flexe muscles like arms, chest, abs etc
Recommendations: For god's sake please shave your body hair before posing such photographs
2. They categorized their life period as before joining the gym and after...Similiar to AD and BC
3. They refused to wear anything which hides their worked out muscles.
4. They walk differently, they walk as if they are carrying 500kg weight.
5. They constantly irritate you by talking about 3 things. Gym, their muscles and their gym built muscles.
6. They believe Arnold Schwanegar can destroy the entire world with his gym built body.
7. They constantly irritate you by asking every minute "what do you think about my muscles in arms, chest, butt etc?"
I just thought of sending a caution note to all the gay men, ladies etc about these naive gym built men. Warning, before you fantasize or date any gym built men, remember this article and the irritation that can be caused by the same men.
Note: After writing this long, strong article i got bored and visited Planet Romeo, FB etc. As usual the greate strong muscled men profiles attracted me. Sometimes it is very difficult to take your eyes off from these gym built men you know...
Written by
Vikki
Vikki
For the past 40 minutes and 36 seonds he was lifting that heavy iron metal with enormous concentration. I could see the bulge in his arms getting bigger and bigger, waiting to burst from his shorts. All right, i was ogling him literally, period. I was afraid that the veins inside the bulge might break and appear anytime, i felt like i was born to take a first look at it. I was visualising him naked, his long, thick muscles...blah blah blah. I started analysing various reasons for his hard effort to build his body in shape.
After repeated persuasion from Rahul my boyfriend, i have decided to join Gym. Definitely i have no ambitious idea of turning myself into a John Abraham or Brad Pitt or participating in Mr.India Contest. I just wanted to convince Rahul by going to a gym everyday. But i had other reason to go to the gym for sure. I was not sure if my body building project would work, but it helped me flexing my other important muscles.
Sometimes i wondered on a hot summer day where are all these gays in town? Well, you must visit my gym in adyar. They are all here in different types, sizes and ages. Hotties, hot twinks, hot muscled men busy working and sweating out. Ofcourse with few gay men like me around watching them.
Most of the gay men likes muscular built men, i wonder if there any particular reason for gay men to go 'ga-ga' on gym built men. Even though we read several news about the growing level of impotency among gym built men. Well, as usual i have decided to do a research on these guys.
Point to ponder:
1. Most of the gym built men have their FB, PlanetRomeo or Orkut profiles having their photos posing their flexe muscles like arms, chest, abs etc
Recommendations: For god's sake please shave your body hair before posing such photographs
2. They categorized their life period as before joining the gym and after...Similiar to AD and BC
3. They refused to wear anything which hides their worked out muscles.
4. They walk differently, they walk as if they are carrying 500kg weight.
5. They constantly irritate you by talking about 3 things. Gym, their muscles and their gym built muscles.
6. They believe Arnold Schwanegar can destroy the entire world with his gym built body.
7. They constantly irritate you by asking every minute "what do you think about my muscles in arms, chest, butt etc?"
I just thought of sending a caution note to all the gay men, ladies etc about these naive gym built men. Warning, before you fantasize or date any gym built men, remember this article and the irritation that can be caused by the same men.
Note: After writing this long, strong article i got bored and visited Planet Romeo, FB etc. As usual the greate strong muscled men profiles attracted me. Sometimes it is very difficult to take your eyes off from these gym built men you know...
Written by
Vikki
Chennai Dost Gay Movie Screening on 31st Oct, Adyar
Chennai Dost Movie Screening.
Chennai Dost cordially invites all of you for a Movie Screening at the Chennai Dost House.
Date: 31st October 2010, Sunday.
Time: 5:00 P.M. to 7:00 P.M.
Venue: Chennai Dost House.
The Movie that will be Screened is
I LOVE YOU PHILIP MORRIS
Cast: Jim Carrey, Ewan McGregor and Leslie Mann.
Synopsis: Steven Russell (Jim Carrey) is happily married to Debbie (Leslie Mann), and a member of the local police force when a car accident provokes a dramatic reassessment of his life. Steven becomes open about his homosexuality and decides to live life to the fullest - even if it means breaking the law. Steven's new, extravagant lifestyle involves cons and fraud and, eventually, a stay in the State Penitentiary where he meets and falls in love with the sensitive and soft-spoken Phillip Morris (Ewan McGregor). His devotion to freeing Phillip from jail and building the perfect life together prompts Steven to attempt and often succeed at one impossible con after another.
The invitation is open to all for free, for more info contact:
Helpline 044 433 133 82
Rahul 95516 30213 , Vinod 98406 30365
Chennai Dost cordially invites all of you for a Movie Screening at the Chennai Dost House.
Date: 31st October 2010, Sunday.
Time: 5:00 P.M. to 7:00 P.M.
Venue: Chennai Dost House.
The Movie that will be Screened is
I LOVE YOU PHILIP MORRIS
Cast: Jim Carrey, Ewan McGregor and Leslie Mann.
Synopsis: Steven Russell (Jim Carrey) is happily married to Debbie (Leslie Mann), and a member of the local police force when a car accident provokes a dramatic reassessment of his life. Steven becomes open about his homosexuality and decides to live life to the fullest - even if it means breaking the law. Steven's new, extravagant lifestyle involves cons and fraud and, eventually, a stay in the State Penitentiary where he meets and falls in love with the sensitive and soft-spoken Phillip Morris (Ewan McGregor). His devotion to freeing Phillip from jail and building the perfect life together prompts Steven to attempt and often succeed at one impossible con after another.
The invitation is open to all for free, for more info contact:
Helpline 044 433 133 82
Rahul 95516 30213 , Vinod 98406 30365
Monday, October 4, 2010
Write up - Gay extortion/harassment/discrimination
Dear Friends
On Sunday, 3rd of October, 2010, a group discussion and awareness session on the ‘Harassment and Extortion’ of people from the LGBTQ community was organized under the auspice of Chennai Dost.
The discussion started with a reference to the reading down of Sec377 by the Delhi High Court; and then focused upon specific incidents of harassment faced by several people; before touching upon the various legal recourses available to some one who is being harassed.
The session concluded with the mentioning of a few channel of help available to any distressed person.
I am sure the CD team will soon put up (or may have put up by the time this gets posted) a more elaborate write-up of the event and thus will not be going into the nitty-gritty of the same.
What was interesting to note was the timing of this session; coming just a day after Gandhi Jayanti and two days after the much publicized news of the suicide of Tyler Clementi (an American gay teenager who thought it better to end his life than to face harassment from his room mate).
Gandhi once said, “I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.”
It is a pity to note that, even in this day and age, most of us still do not have the freedom to express our selves with out the fear of being singled out… singled out by the police, by our colleagues, by friends or, some times, even by our family. No one knows how many such ‘Tylers’ face harassment in their life just because they wanted to exercise the same freedom that the Father of the Nation had once wished for its people to enjoy.
At a broader level, this session organized by CD should be conceived as a baby step in the road to the ‘freedom for full expression of our personality’.
One fact that hit me when I entered the venue of this program was that it was being held in the living room of the organizer.
This was not a fancy seminar being hosted at some budget auditorium, attended by a sprinkling of gay activists, human rights lawyers, and a few members of the liberal media… making speeches for each others benefit.
This was an example of grass-root activism; a bottom-up approach in which awareness is born out of the living rooms of common people and not preached from a podium. It not only tries to reach out to people as individuals but also helps to create a community space for the people to breath with ease.
My only wish is that various support organizations working in this field would urge some of its members to hold similar micro level group discussions or other activities in their homes, in different parts of the city, on a regular basis. This will not only increase the reach of the “Queer Movement” in India but also encourage more and more closeted LGBT people to express them selves freely.
To quote Gandhi, ‘Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will’. The LGBT movement in India can reach its next level only if this ‘indomitable will’, which is so visibly present in the community ‘leaders’, can be passed on to the average Joe through a program of grass root level mobilization… one that the Chennai Dost team has successfully embarked upon.
Thank you,
Rahul
On Sunday, 3rd of October, 2010, a group discussion and awareness session on the ‘Harassment and Extortion’ of people from the LGBTQ community was organized under the auspice of Chennai Dost.
The discussion started with a reference to the reading down of Sec377 by the Delhi High Court; and then focused upon specific incidents of harassment faced by several people; before touching upon the various legal recourses available to some one who is being harassed.
The session concluded with the mentioning of a few channel of help available to any distressed person.
I am sure the CD team will soon put up (or may have put up by the time this gets posted) a more elaborate write-up of the event and thus will not be going into the nitty-gritty of the same.
What was interesting to note was the timing of this session; coming just a day after Gandhi Jayanti and two days after the much publicized news of the suicide of Tyler Clementi (an American gay teenager who thought it better to end his life than to face harassment from his room mate).
Gandhi once said, “I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.”
It is a pity to note that, even in this day and age, most of us still do not have the freedom to express our selves with out the fear of being singled out… singled out by the police, by our colleagues, by friends or, some times, even by our family. No one knows how many such ‘Tylers’ face harassment in their life just because they wanted to exercise the same freedom that the Father of the Nation had once wished for its people to enjoy.
At a broader level, this session organized by CD should be conceived as a baby step in the road to the ‘freedom for full expression of our personality’.
One fact that hit me when I entered the venue of this program was that it was being held in the living room of the organizer.
This was not a fancy seminar being hosted at some budget auditorium, attended by a sprinkling of gay activists, human rights lawyers, and a few members of the liberal media… making speeches for each others benefit.
This was an example of grass-root activism; a bottom-up approach in which awareness is born out of the living rooms of common people and not preached from a podium. It not only tries to reach out to people as individuals but also helps to create a community space for the people to breath with ease.
My only wish is that various support organizations working in this field would urge some of its members to hold similar micro level group discussions or other activities in their homes, in different parts of the city, on a regular basis. This will not only increase the reach of the “Queer Movement” in India but also encourage more and more closeted LGBT people to express them selves freely.
To quote Gandhi, ‘Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will’. The LGBT movement in India can reach its next level only if this ‘indomitable will’, which is so visibly present in the community ‘leaders’, can be passed on to the average Joe through a program of grass root level mobilization… one that the Chennai Dost team has successfully embarked upon.
Thank you,
Rahul
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Gay-o-meter
Surprised n shocked...one of my friend sent this link to find out how Gay i am...i answered all the stupid questions it asked, i must be really bored n had no work then...i was expecting a result with full mark 100, but disappointingly it gave me just 53%, i think i deserve more than that or may be not...so i leave it to you judge...
http://www.channel4.com/life/microsites/G/gayometer/gayometer.html
If you are bored n really have no work to do you can check the below link as well, but dont be surprised if it gave you more mark than i got, if that is the case then you are really so Gay....lol...End of the story
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Sex Extortion, Discrimination and Harassment - Case study 1
Dear Vikki
It was a weekday afternoon- my straight classmates and me planned to bunk the whole day classes and go out for a drink. One of my classmate suggested that we go with our senior friends, I said that’s ok even though I did not feel really ok about this plan.. As I don’t know how would they behave while they are drunk. Believe it or not my fear just came true that noon. We had a group drink party with our seniors. It was like a get-together for me. We chatted and laughed, made fun of each other’s and had a total nice
time. Most of my college mates knew about me- which I am a gay. My classmates were always protective of me, but I was not sure about my seniors. As soon as we started to booze a lot Things like called as basic manners slipped off. One of my seniors pulled up my sexuality as a subject- and I felt nervous but still played a cool dice with it and handled the discussion cleverly. Then it smoothly went into an argument. Do you want to know what the argument was? Well, it was the common misconception what most straight people have- the proper definitions of homosexual (gay/ lesbian) and bisexual. My senior dragged the subject too hard arguing that bisexuals are the people who have sex with men. I felt stupid and I tried to explain him. As soon as the argument broke out he insulted my friends by beating them up. They went cool with it, as they thought that he was drunk heavily. As the situation cooled off, I thought I escaped it, but the worst part was yet to come. The same senior later tried to pull of his classmates’ pants off and get
a piece of their underwear by scissors. When he came to me I didn’t resist initially- and he succeeded in getting a piece of my underwear without removing my pants off. It was a relief for me that I did low-hip style that day. But later, even after getting a piece of me he tried to go under my pants. I was shocked and resisted. My resistance made the senior to team up with two other seniors. I shrieked and screamed calling out my friends’ name. Sadly most of them were drunk enough to handle themselves. Only few tried to help me out of the situation, but I on the other part took it seriously and went into a shock and got wheezing as I have asthma and a slight seizure as I had hyper nervousness. Friends were the only hope at that time; they brought me out of the hazard as soon as possible. I went off for few minutes and managed to recover with some scars on my face and neck. It took more than 2 days to come out of the depression and shock after having a short counsel with a local doctor. This raping attempt of my senior later put him into one-week suspension from the college management. His and others discrimination and non-acceptance of what I am is what I can’t still get over with.
Regards
X
Note: CD would like to share some bad experiences of our members in Sex Extortion, sexual harassment and Discrimination to all our members. You can also share some similiar experiences of yours, please send it to chennaidostt@gmail.com
It was a weekday afternoon- my straight classmates and me planned to bunk the whole day classes and go out for a drink. One of my classmate suggested that we go with our senior friends, I said that’s ok even though I did not feel really ok about this plan.. As I don’t know how would they behave while they are drunk. Believe it or not my fear just came true that noon. We had a group drink party with our seniors. It was like a get-together for me. We chatted and laughed, made fun of each other’s and had a total nice
time. Most of my college mates knew about me- which I am a gay. My classmates were always protective of me, but I was not sure about my seniors. As soon as we started to booze a lot Things like called as basic manners slipped off. One of my seniors pulled up my sexuality as a subject- and I felt nervous but still played a cool dice with it and handled the discussion cleverly. Then it smoothly went into an argument. Do you want to know what the argument was? Well, it was the common misconception what most straight people have- the proper definitions of homosexual (gay/ lesbian) and bisexual. My senior dragged the subject too hard arguing that bisexuals are the people who have sex with men. I felt stupid and I tried to explain him. As soon as the argument broke out he insulted my friends by beating them up. They went cool with it, as they thought that he was drunk heavily. As the situation cooled off, I thought I escaped it, but the worst part was yet to come. The same senior later tried to pull of his classmates’ pants off and get
a piece of their underwear by scissors. When he came to me I didn’t resist initially- and he succeeded in getting a piece of my underwear without removing my pants off. It was a relief for me that I did low-hip style that day. But later, even after getting a piece of me he tried to go under my pants. I was shocked and resisted. My resistance made the senior to team up with two other seniors. I shrieked and screamed calling out my friends’ name. Sadly most of them were drunk enough to handle themselves. Only few tried to help me out of the situation, but I on the other part took it seriously and went into a shock and got wheezing as I have asthma and a slight seizure as I had hyper nervousness. Friends were the only hope at that time; they brought me out of the hazard as soon as possible. I went off for few minutes and managed to recover with some scars on my face and neck. It took more than 2 days to come out of the depression and shock after having a short counsel with a local doctor. This raping attempt of my senior later put him into one-week suspension from the college management. His and others discrimination and non-acceptance of what I am is what I can’t still get over with.
Regards
X
Note: CD would like to share some bad experiences of our members in Sex Extortion, sexual harassment and Discrimination to all our members. You can also share some similiar experiences of yours, please send it to chennaidostt@gmail.com
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